Mom life is the best life, right? I often think about the validity of this statement on days when I struggle with balancing it all. I feel guilty for saying this out loud but there have to be other moms out there who feel the same way that I do and question this same statement either multiple days a week or maybe even multiple times a day. Before kids I was an articulate, well put together, thin and organized person. My outfits were composed of multiple luxurious layers and my hair and makeup were always done. I exercised almost every day and dined at fine restaurants in NYC with my husband. My to-do lists were lengthy but I was able to work to check items off each day and felt a sense of accomplishment when I went to bed each night. Fast forward three years later and I now wonder what happened to that person. Actually I know what happened to her, she became a mom. My new normal is the following; my to-do list seems to grow each day without checking items off of it, my baby weight is sticking to me preventing me from wearing anything other than leggings and a tunic and my idea of fine dining is Smash Burger. At first thought I longed to return to my previous self but then I realize that I need to accept my new self and be thankful for all of the good that I have in my life. I never, ever, heard my mom complain about being a mother. She stayed at home to raise us and it seemed like she enjoyed the job and was fulfilled by it. After having Summer, now having two little girls under the age of three, I asked her in despair, “how did you do it with four kids and two of them being twins?” Her response, “no one ever said it was easy but you just do the best you can every single day”.
She is right and she made me realize that “my new best” is something completely different than what I was used to. It was something that had to be redefined. My new “best” includes so much more than I ever anticipated or ever realized would be part of my life… and along with it, new titles. My new titles in life include mom, wife and entrepreneur, none of which are easy shoes to fill. But every day I give each one my all and while nothing ever seems perfect it has become my version of doing my best. I feel fortunate to have built a blog that allows me to partner with brands that align with my vision in life and allow me to promote messages based on positivity. Brands that remind me about what is important in life and allow me to be a voice to carry on their message. Merci Chocolate’s message is to “give thanks” because so often we rush through life without giving thanks to those who support us. What I didn’t realize would happen with this campaign is that I would be thankful for them, thankful that they are reminding me to give thanks and to be grateful, so I should be thanking them. Often on days where I feel overwhelmed and stressed I forget to stop and be thankful and to reflect on the many blessings that I do have in life. So in an effort to promote this campaign and message to the best of my ability, below i’ve listed five things that I am thankful for in my life. I encourage you to take 15 minutes the next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed and do the same, because it does help put things into perspective.
Thankful for the community of moms that I have who understand the term “new best” and don’t judge me on days when my new best involves having a candy cane for lunch. Yep, happened today.
Thankful for Summer, the newest addition to the family. She is not only sweet and happy but she is also a sleeper. What mom isn’t thankful for a sleeper?
Thankful for Isabella. The little girl who reminds me each day what it truly means to be thankful.
Thankful for my husband who has the ability, most times, to calm me and help me realize what is important at the end of each day.
Thankful for an incredible support system of a family who I know I can rely on if I need them.
Finally, thankful for this blog and for the community that has come with it.
So I encourage you to reach out to someone in your life who you think might be struggling with defining their “new best” and tell them how they are doing an incredible job. Because at the end of the day we all need to hear it and if you want to go the extra mile send them a customized Merci Chocolate to remind them that you are thinking of them and are thankful to have them in your life. See my last month’s round of giving thanks.